Life lessons lite
For those of you who enjoy your positivity in easy to digest pieces, look no further than this board. All the fab Integro life lessons are here, summarised into…
How is your existential angst today? I jest… but for many the crisis of the last few years has surfaced a sense of discomfort and anxiety about the meaning of life, as big crises often do. When life goes topsy turvy, people ask themselves questions like: • What is it all about? • What is the purpose of my life? • Do I matter in the great scheme of things?
Some age old wisdoms that have been around forever still ring true today…. and who hasn’t heard this one: Take life one day at a time, and try to give yourself a break. It’s an oldie but a goodie and still sound advice. Looking too far ahead with anxiety can cause you to feel pessimistic about things working out. So when it's required, slow down, mark time, and find ways to enjoy each day in small ways even when things turn to custard.
When life doesn't go the way we planned, it's tempting to blame other people, find a scapegoat, get angry with someone, anyone, but this is the exact time to take responsibility for oneself. The effect will be one of empowerment and a reduction in feeling like a victim. Don't give away your personal power to outside forces or nameless other people. Take radical personal responsibility, always looking to yourself first and it will be a liberating experience.
Bob Marley sang this in a way that made us believe that it could be true. When you are going through some challenging times, it might help to think that everything will be OK in the end. Not right now perhaps and not to diminish what is happening at the time. Look to the future when things will be alright.
Very social and just plain curious about what's out there. Pumbaa: It's like my buddy Timon always says: you got to put your behind in your past. Timon: No, no, no. Amateur. Sit down before you hurt yourself. It's "You got to put your past behind you." (The Lion King) Wise words friend.
Follow your own path. As you go through life, it’s rewarding to discover who you really are and what your purpose is on this planet. This may involve shedding layers of expectations you’ve taken on along the way. It might also mean forging a new path for yourself off the beaten track. This is ok. Find out who you are and what you want and the way forward becomes clearer. Sunset on a beach in Auckland, NZ
These suck don’t they, but they are a signal that something you are doing might not be working. Perhaps it helps to think about what was going on at the time you experienced them. What were you doing or thinking? Who were you with? Feelings follow thoughts and lead to certain actions. What are your emotions trying to tell you? Sunset at Russell, Bay of Islands, NZ.
You won’t always feel the way you do now. When you are going through a difficult time, it helps to remember that you won’t feel the way you do now forever. Things change just through the passing of time and the natural ebb and flow that occurs with that forward movement. Things can change so try not to get stuck in how you feel today as it will shift and evolve as time goes by. Candy skies at Lake Tahoe in Nevada USA
Understanding is the best thing in the world. The world would be a much kinder place if we tried to put ourselves in other people’s shoes from time to time. It’s easy to judge but more difficult to pause and reflect on the actions of others. The thing is ….you never know when you might need the understanding of others, so do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Sunset at Muriwai Beach NZ - A beautiful, windswept beach on Auckland’s wild west coast.
Be kind - each of us is like the pebble as we move through life, causing waves by the things we do and how we treat other people. Our behaviour creates ripples that affect those around us in both positive and negative ways. Much like the pebble moving across the water, it’s impossible not to make waves, it’s simple cause and effect.
Water goes where it wants to go 'Water does not resist. Water flows. When you plunge your hand into it, all you feel is a caress. Water is not a solid wall, it will not stop you. But water always goes where it wants to go, and nothing in the end can stand against it. Water is patient. Dripping water wears away a stone. Remember that, my child. Remember you are half water. If you can't go through an obstacle, go around it. Water does.' (Margaret Atwood - The Penelopiad)