They say, abusers and controllers choose others who are kind and who will give them the benefit of the doubt. I guess this is why. Well, I'm over that. I had to learn the HARD way, but better late than never and never again.
‘IF’ by Rudyard Kipling sung by Joni Mitchell and recited by Dennis Hopper
I will do anything to protect my children and put them in life and have given up a lot to ensure that they know that ~ if you refuse to do that then please don't ever mistake yourself as a "parent". you are nothing more than sperm donor.
What it comes down to is your actions in the end. As the saying goes actions speak louder than words. We can make careful plans if needed to to end relationships we do not wish to stay in. Start making plans for the life you want.