Just because a person doesn't put hands on you, that doesn't mean they aren't abusive. Abuse is control, blatant disrespect, & also hurtful words. Don't settle for emotional abuse thinking it's ok because it's not physical.
These are just a few things abusive people do. Abuse or putting enough pressure on you to help you step up to a better version of yourself. It depends on the dynamics of the people involved, their motive, and intent.