Peace Corner instead of time out to help calm down. My kiddo learns and changes his behavior when given a chance to breathe and talk through things way better than when I use an excess of negative discipline.
Having a hard time finding One-on One time with each of your kids? Make a plan! Assign each child one night per week with mom, Extend bedtime by 30 minutes on their assigned night, Plan a fun meal or special treat just for them (use bonding activities).