and sometimes she'll get sad and she'll share it with you. not for you to cheer her up. just be quiet and feel it with her. because sometimes she needs to feel it to let it go, but she doesn't want to feel so alone.
See how that doesnt work? The message we wind up sending is that our behavior our words and possibly the direction our life takes are dependent upon what someone else does or says. We are saying Im not going to do my part if you dont do yours.