Oh yes, some women/MEN just don't get it. It's not all about you, and your shoes. OR-if you are the MAN. It's not ALL about YOU and taking everything the woman gives because she loves you and never refilling her love tank!
Stop asking yourself what if you can't do it, and instead as yourself what if you can? What if you can write a bestselling novel? What if you can accomplish your dream to be a published writer? If you're willing to work for it, you can.