I have a tattoo on my side.because my grandpa used to tell me this "be not afraid". And the phrase "do not be afraid" is written in the bible 365 times. that's a daily reminder from god to live every day being fearless.
When someone gossips about you, it's possible that they have some resentment towards you but do not have the courage to confront you face to face on the matter. It is also possible that the person is jealous. :) It's never a bad reflection on you ever!
I am an enfj-I really hate small talk and chit chat. I may not talk about myself but I do want to know about you. Then when I trust you enough to know that you won't betray me, I may talk about myself. I love listening more than talking.